Dream Buzz

Here’s your playbook for the next 24 hours.

:: 11:00am the Next Morning ::

Finally! You can now create that new group in your address book called “prospects.” But slow down ladies man! You got ONE number, which is great and all, but the next step is the most important.

Step 1: Breathe.

Inside, you’re acting like you did when Jennifer Stone (the cool girl on campus) asked you to the freshman formal. Outside though, you’re cool, calm, and collected; think Bruce Wayne, as Batman, deep voice and all.

We’re not dumb. You most likely weren’t sober. In step 2 we answer the age-old question “What happened last night?” Specifically, what happened between you and your new lady friend? The last thing you want to do is call her for the sake of calling her; you’re better than that bro. The most important question to ask yourself is, “Where were we and what were we doing that allowed the heavens to part for me to get this number?”

Dancing?
Drinking?
Mutual friends?
Horribly cheesy pick up line that actually worked?

Regardless, this is crucial before we move on to step 3 and these little details are what will help you stand out from the other 5 guys she gave her number to (yes… this is a competition).

:: 4:00pm ::

Step 3: First Contact.

Depending on the circumstance- this occurs either through a phone call or a text message, but who are we kidding… it’s the latter.

General Rule of Thumb: If the initial interaction involved alcohol, a text message is required. If this was a casual and sober event then pick up that phone Mr. Wayne.

Step 3a: First Contact - The Text.

Make it easy on yourself. Simply fill out this mad lib and copy and paste it into your iPhone.

“Hey NAME, it was great meeting you last night. What’s your plan for the rest of the weekend? We should LOW KEY ACTIVITY.“

This low-key activity should be something along the lines of a drink at a lounge, a bite to eat, coffee, etc. Always remember the “day date = friends” rule. If you’re looking to achieve something more than another girl who is a friend, steer clear of the day dates.

Step 3b: First Contact - The Call.

This call should be short and sweet. This isn’t your first rodeo...well maybe it is, but she doesn’t need to – scratch that, CAN’T- know that. Most likely you’ll get her voicemail in which case, see the script above but include YOUR NUMBER.

Let’s say she, for some reason, thinks this unknown number is her friend calling from a home phone, so she answers. Here is your call outline:

1. She answers, she’s a little confused because she thought this was someone else’s number. Take a breath and let the awkwardness die down.
2. Be sure to start with who you are and where you met her. The last thing she needs is another telemarketer.
3. Play it cool and let her do the talking. If she isn’t talking and nothing but awkward silence continues then quickly jump to stage 4 before you ruin this.
4. In marketing, a call to action is the key to any type of market message- convincing a girl to go on a date with you isn’t much different. Open ended questions and “to do” items are key. Here’s an example:

You: What are your plans for the rest of the weekend?
Her: I’m not really sure, probably grabbing a drink with some friends?
You: Cool, well we should grab a drink sometime. Does next week work for you?
Her: Sounds good.
You: Great, let’s talk next week and we’ll figure it out.
Her: Alright, bye!

You then open yourself up to talking again without pressure of making plans right then and there. It gives her some time to think about you and (IMPORTANT) wonder when you’re going to contact her. You can then talk early the next week. You set up a time to meet. You make a decision. You offer to pick her up. The date is set.

Step 4: The Meeting.

You’ve come this far so don’t drop the ball now. Use your trusty pal Google and find a mellow place to grab a drink. Make sure it’s not too intimate but don’t take her to the local sports bar for a shot of Wild Turkey… unless she’s into that kind of thing...then cheers!

Keep the conversation comfortable and let her do most of the talking. Remember, this isn’t about you. Look intrigued and by all means, be yourself. It’s not worth pretending to be someone else unless you want to keep that persona up for the remainder of your time together (think years).

Repeat your “calls to action” at the end of the night and always remember slow and steady wins the race. You’re here to get to know each other- that’s not going to happen overnight.

Let’s review:

Step 1: Breathe - Don’t get too excited.
Step 2: Remember - Hopefully last night didn’t get too crazy because you need some solid talking points – not to mention your Patrick Swayze dance moves aren’t close to good enough.
Step 3: Contact - Not first thing in the morning. Short and sweet. Calls to action.
Step 4: Meet - Casual, not too intimate, no shots of Wild Turkey and NOT your neighborhood Applebee’s.

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