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Don’t get me wrong; I have the utmost respect for women. I also consider searching for true love to be the greatest journey life has to offer. But, there are times in life when being completely honest about your true intentions may get you in trouble with the opposite sex, or at the very least, left alone.

Keep in mind that guys aren’t alone when it comes to this. Everyone claims to be constantly searching for “Mr/Mrs. Right,” but what he or she is less apt to admit is that they’re also constantly searching for “Mr/Mrs. Right-now.”

As I can only speak from a guy’s perspective, that will be the range of my expertise on this issue. But although my insight is one-sided, there are similar dynamics at play between both genders. I know it, and you know it too.

I can almost say with 100% positivity that you’ve heard this tip before now. And to hear it again, it may sound trivial and redundant. However, if that’s the case, then either you lack the attention to detail to use it correctly, or, you’re just not using the approach correctly.

In social settings where guys and girls mix, there are thousands of verbal and nonverbal messages being sent at all times. Whether or not you’re directly communicating with someone, in these types of settings, you’re sending social signs of communication in all directions, at all times. In another respect, human relationships are built entirely on trust. If you can create enough trust within a member of the opposite sex, using these spoken and unspoken communication messages, game over. You win.

Simply put, to capture any girls attention, and I mean ANY girl, all you need to do is become a master of communication. Throw all that other crap you heard from friends and loud mouth frat brothers out the door, the science of seduction is reduced to social evolution. Only the strong survive.

The easiest way to build an instant trust between yourself and a member of the opposite sex is through humor and allowing yourself to appear vulnerable. People trust others who allow themselves to become embarrassed (or at least appear to). The result is an almost instant mutual emotion of commonality. She believes you share something in common, when in reality it’s you in the driver’s seat.Now this next step requires a bit of wit, and this is where the experience comes into play. You need make her laugh. Not just a sympathy chuckle, you need to make her laugh. Take your time and buy a drink if you need time to stall, but all the while keep your confidence. It’s your strongest social power over every other guy in that place. Succeed here and you’re well on your way to closing the deal.

Keep in mind you won’t learn these skills overnight, and I’m no master by any means (yet). Developing social intuition and the ability to adapt and connect with different personalities takes time and most importantly, experience. Stay confident and aware of yourself at all times, they’re always watching.

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