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Love vs. Lust: How We Can’t Help But Get Addicted to Love
Posted by Dating Guru on August 1, 2012 at 7:30 PM

Bad DateGet that mental notepad ready, because we’re about to drop some serious knowledge on you. You know how you…er, we mean your friends, get all Beyoncé-crazy when they fall in love? Well scientists may have finally found a logical explanation for it.

According to the brilliant minds at Rutgers University, you know, the geniuses who use their amazing brains to analyze yours, they’ve found that people in the first stages of passionate lust, have brain wave patterns similar to those of drug addicts. Yep, drug addicts! While that may be a little unsettling at first, it could explain the bizarre habits you…well, we mean your friends, develop when things start getting hot and heavy with their new main squeeze.

From late night booty calls to romantic rendezvous, finding out when you can get your next attention ‘fix’ from your sweetie, inspires all kinds of crazy actions. But love and lust go hand in hand, usually with lust being the initial kicker, the animal magnetism you feel at first that eventually can grow into a strong, albeit less heart-pounding love. So how do you tell the difference? How do you know when you’ve found ‘The One?'

Well Rutgers University Professor, Dr. Helen Fisher Ph.D. divides love into three progressive stages:

Initial Lust: The craving for sexual gratification – You meet at the bar, your eyes lock across the room and you’re just drawn to each other. Then yadda, yadda, yadda, you end up as each other’s favorite booty call.

Attraction: Or romantic or passionate love, characterized by euphoria when things are going well and terrible mood swings when they’re not. You know, the adorable, sappy honeymoon stage of the relationship...and the vicious text message fights that go with it.

Lasting Attachment: The sense of calm, peace, and stability one feels with a long-term partner – You’ve found your match, the honeymoon is over, but you’re not too torn up about it. Perfection.

Love and lust are crazy feelings programmed into the human body. There's just not a darn thing you can do to change it, except learning to go with the flow and trying to keep a level head when you can. Just remember, next time your buddy starts acting all nutty about that girl he just met, cut him some slack, it’s uncontrollably chemical.

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