Posted by Dating Guru
on April 25, 2013 at 4:09 PM
"Why?” “Why??” “But WHY???”
The countless “Whys” of childhood have tried many adults’ patience throughout time. Toddlers have inquisitive minds that are expanding and showing endless curiosity about the world. The concept of cause and effect is being understood; that there’s a reason for almost everything.
The “Why?” is not limited to childhood. As adults, we continue to question. And as soon as we start showing an interest in the opposite sex, we start with a whole new set of “Why?” questions.
When we were young, adults didn’t answer every “Why?” question we had. A key strategy for adults was to deflect the question and ask us what we thought the answer was. So ladies, if you get any of the 17 “Whys?” listed here, try this with him. While his answer may amuse you, try not to laugh — his mind is working in amazing ways as he puts together what information he has about the world from his male perspective. Of course, you can help him with an answer based on two “x” chromosomes.
17 “Whys” men would like to ask women accompanied by a female response:
1. Male: Why do you say you’ll be ready in 5 minutes and then you’re really ready one hour later?
Female: You want a trophy-supermodel to parade around with you, don’t you? This amazing hair does not do itself. And you know there is man time and woman time. Time passes differently for us both. Like you’ll be by in 5 minutes and I wait an hour. So we’re even?
2.Male: Why do you go to the bathroom in pairs?
Female: Who wants to walk across a big room alone only to find a long line upon bathroom arrival? This time gives us a chance to talk or gossip about the night, you or the girls we’re sure you’re looking at.
3.Male: Why do you overdress for every occasion?
Female: I know you think I look hot in shorts and running shoes but I also like to dress for me. I want to look good and feel good. It’s a preference and definite girl-thing.
4.Male: Why don’t you understand that I don’t want to go shopping with you?
Female: I love looking good (see #3) and making a statement with my style for me, you and our friends (and anyone else who cares to notice). Shopping is a pastime and even goes back to our female ancestors; as we were the gatherers.
So shopping is not your thing as you can go into a store and come out with the one exact thing you went in for in less than 5 minutes. Guess the equivalent could be you wanting me to spend the afternoon with you at the hardware store. So I do get it but I just want to share a passion.
5.Male: And on the shopping−Why do you have to have so many shoes?
Female: Maybe someday we’ll get that our adrenaline rush from shoes is equivalent to yours from driving fast.
6.Male: Why do you ask us if we think another girl is pretty? We know if we say “Yes” then we’re in trouble.
Female: You can always say “Yes” but add “but not as pretty as you are.” We always like your adoration confirmation.
7. Male: Why do you think it’s just girls who like a sense of humor and want someone who can make them laugh?
Female: Never thought about it being what a guy might want also. What better way to release tension than to laugh and share humor? Let’s laugh together!
8.Male: Why don’t you like guys that are too nice?
Female: Don’t get me wrong. I like guys that are really nice for someone else; just not me. I simply can’t like a nonassertive, predictable doormat with no demands.
9.Male: So why do girls like bad boys?
Female: I can save a bad boy by nurturing him with love. With me, he’ll be different. Bad boys need to be saved and nice guys don’t. Besides, he’ll protect me and keep me secure while we take that little walk on the wild side. And if he doesn’t change, “nice” won’t seem so bad after all.
10.Male: Why do you think we are projects you can fix or change?
Female: Boys with an element of bad usually do need some type of fixing so they become a project. We think if we can "create" the perfect man, he will never leave us. Also, if we're busy fixing someone else, we don't have to look at what needs to be fixed in our own lives.
11.Male: Why do you get so emotional and dramatic?
Female: I simply want to put you to the test. I seek attention because I want reassurance and affirmation that you care for me.
12.Male: Why do I get the silent treatment?
Female: “Nothing’s wrong, it’s fine.” Come on. You have to recognize that I’m NOT fine and if you DON’T try to make it better, I’m going to bring this up during every argument we may have for the next 20 years. So ask me what’s wrong until we talk it out.
13.Male: Why do you always ask what we’re thinking?
Female: Sometimes I want to talk to you and hope by asking that you’ll bring up a topic. Many times I wish you would say you’re thinking about me, even if you aren’t. I really just want to know that everything is OK with you−and us.
14.Male: Why do you always think I’m cheating on you?
Female: I get insecure and jealous. As long as you’re 100% honest and that I’m all you need, I’m good.
15.Male: Why does your need for sex lessen over time?
Here’s a scientific response: Multiple studies conclude that men's sex drives are not only stronger than women's, but much more straightforward. The sources of women's libidos, by contrast, are much more difficult to pin down. In the end, the amount of sexual activity is an area requiring compromise from both parties.
16.Male: Why do you fake orgasms?
Female: Well of course you know that I never fake *wink*. The reasons other females do might be to avoid hurting her guy’s feelings, because she has her own intimacy issues, she may just want “to get it over with,” or she wants to protect her man’s ego.
17.Male: Why does size matter? Or does it?
Female: First, your size is perfect. Mostly, we don’t care about size. Yes, there may be a few that say penis size is significant. Penises are like the best toys; no matter what they look like, we just want to play with them. Our focus isn't on size; we focus more on what you do with it. The size of a man's ego is what we worry about more. If it's too big, it can take all of the fun out of it.
Next time a guy asks “WHY???” ladies, try directing the question back at him. But you can always share an answer from the female point-of-view so that both of you can learn and grow together.